Still better than the typical crap you see on reddit. I hate to say it, but the influx of normal/trashy people is worse than the bots. Gimme someone with enough independent thought to consider themselves a third wave communist or whatever.

My constant refrain on all the internet relationship advice is “You see that essay you just wrote? Read it to your partner.” And this will resolve the problem in one way or another in 90% of cases.

But then we also get a pretty hard selection bias as internet readers of relationship drama, in that in order for us to even know about the problem (1) it has to cause a significant emotional disturbance for OP, (2) OP has no source of trustworthy, levelheaded advice in their real life - which is already a bad start, (3) they think that the internet is the best place to go - another red flag, (4) they must be self-important enough to think their personal drama would warrant the attention of strangers, (5) the drama must be so juicy that it gets hoards of upvotes and comments so it reaches the front page, (6) it’s probably fake anyway.

So for the 5000 upvote /r/relationshipadvice post “My Trump supporter boyfriend says our free-use sex life should include my 14 year old daughter, but my cousin (her father) disagrees” - the answer is definitely “Yes, you should break up, and also go to therapy, preferably in a mental institution.”

Your name is Punk Rock Sports Fan.

Suppose a local punk band wants to inform people that they will be playing a show. So they print out some posters and hang them around town.

That’s advertising.

This says… something… about you. But I couldn’t tell you what.

As noted before, this will probably present a far larger barrier to most people than a small fee. You can already host an event like this in any given public park with no permit necessary. However, most people have a spare $5 but are highly reluctant to embarrass themselves in the town square - so charging a fee for privacy is more inclusive.

Yes, more or less everything involves money. This is like when someone says “ugh, X isn’t political”, and then someone else points out that no, everything is political. If you want something that can’t just be picked up off the ground, then someone, somewhere is paying for it, in some way.

Exactly. You are limiting your ability to make things happen if you insist on making it free. If you just charge a fee, you can use it to pay a venue to host you.

I mean, make your own club. It’s as simple as finding a space to do it, inviting your friends, and putting up some posters or whatever.

But finding a space could be difficult. Many people find dancing, or especially learning to dance, in public spaces like parks to be uncomfortable. So you’ll need somewhere private, out of the public eye. You might be able to find space in a local school, library, community center, or church - but these places rarely seem to have a good vibe. Usually they have bad lighting, modernist architecture, lackluster sound systems (if they have any at all), and/or an odor that isn’t bad so much as it is vaguely off-putting. And just generally, they aren’t the sort of places where a vibrant young person wants to go to have a good time. So you probably need to find a private venue, like a bar with a spare back room. The bar might want to host you as a form of passive advertising and a way to get people in the door - but just as easily, they may want you to pay a fee for the inconvenience you cause them and for the use of their space. And fair enough - after all, they still need to make their rent.

Then, you have to actually put on the event. Picking out music, getting a good vibe going, dealing with assholes and telling them to go away, getting the word out, responding to emails, finding people to cover for you when you just can’t make it this week, etc. At which point you realize that you are essentially working a part time job, so you might as well get paid.